So I used to talk to this girl, I really liked her Last April/May this was Talked for about a month, quite a lot, and then her replies started getting really bad - turns out she was talking to other guys and wanted to keep her options open
That was cool, I understood people are like that, but I wasn’t, so I walked away, I didn’t wanna compete
She ended up having a bf, I lost the ‘feelings’, it was sweet
In August she drunk hit me up asking about being mates, which was when I found out about the bf, and I said sure but that fizzled Out cos she’s one of those people who doesn’t carry on the convo the next day on Snapchat, no matter what’s being said, and expect you to start a new one
And I wasn’t fussed anymore so we just stopped talking again
So when she started talking to other guys I don’t even think she’d met her bf yet
Then I hit her up in feb asking if she wanted to be fwb cos I was quite horny hahah and something had ended with another girl - also did this cos we got on very well I explained this last bit and told her it was meant as a compliment and that she was very attractive
She said she took it as one and said I was very attractive too but that emotionally she couldn’t do stuff like that cos she’d get attached
But we started talking quite a lot and have a few flirty jokes in there
I’m travelling over to where she lives in about a month and a half (she lives 3 hours away from where I’m at uni) - and uni is another 3 hours from home hahaha, so she lives very far away
Cos it’s far away I said I’d get a hotel so I wouldn’t have to travel 6 hours (from uni and back) on one day and we’d acc have time together to hang She jokingly said ‘the things you’d do for me’ So it’s sometimes a lil flirty and all that, but we are meeting as mates
I asked her if she wanted a one time thing and she got a bit giggly and said we’re mates but she finds me attractive and would have sex with me (said this last bit multiple times, which I loved to hear hahah)
We agreed that we’d meet as mates but that sed was an option - we haven’t met before so guess it’s dependent on the vibe (think she said something like ‘if we’re intimate or into it’ or something, I couldn’t hear cos she went giggly/shy/quiet) I think the vibe will be good because we send vids of us talking to each other, rather than normal snaps, so we know what we sound like/act and first started talking a year ago
We Netflix party a series every night now - she’s a bit lonely cos a lot of her friends aren’t around atm and she’s only just started working again, but we have flirty jokes and whenever I talk about my taste in girls or whatever she says ‘I’m offended’ or whatever and we call each other attractive if it comes up
I’m now realising I still have feelings, cos things didn’t end between us in a bad way, and when she was talking to these other guys we hadn’t even met (still haven’t) so didn’t do anything wrong, just date differently - even tho we went from taking loads to barely, but she’s so lovely and even apologised for it before I knew there were other guys, and was understanding when I left
Interestingly tho we watched love island and both said it was a toxic way to date (so maybe she’s not into keeping her options open anymore/maybe she didn’t acc like me enough last year to just date me and would if it were someone else)
So wth do I do?
Should I just see how it goes? Cos we’re not like tight mates, we haven’t met, but we are attracted to each other...I think there are slight feelings on both sides maybe that might stop us from doing stuff, or encourage it
We’ll either:
meet as platonic friends and it’ll stay like that meet and get flirty and end up sleeping together (pretty sure this) or regardless of either, meet and realise we have feelings and then maybe sleep together, maybe be friends, maybe start seeing each other
Should I tell her now I have feelings or wait till I’ve acc met her and just see what happens?
Friends, friends who fuck once and dating are all good options for me so I feel like I need to just wait and see, but I have feelings and don’t like not saying anything, even tho it might be wrong to do it now
Based off last year she probs didn’t like me as much as other guys, I didn’t feel like her first choice anymore after a month/two of feeling that way and when I told her that she didn’t correct me, so it was clear I wasn’t anymore
So out of self respect I kinda don’t wanna go back there, but we hadn’t met and she does like me so
Also she is is going to uni next year, a few hours away from me
TL;DR: used to talk to girl; she talked to other guys; I left; I hit her up year later about fwb; she said she couldn’t but one time thing she would; we’re gonna hang out as mates and might have a one time thing; I’ve caught feelings again; not sure to be friends and avoid sex to avoid more feelings, be friends and have a one time thing, or tell her how I feel and date her; and even if I tell her, don’t know whether to do it now or see how it goes when we meet
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