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Going on the first date is like you’ve got a big party coming, where you don’t know anyone, except for the host. Maybe you just moved to a new city, started university, or decided to blow some steam off, so you accepted the offer of someone you know to join them for a party. The same applies to dating, you have no idea how it’s going to be. The closer it gets, the more you realize you aren’t prepared for it. Different forms of anxiety and insecurity are probably blocking your confidence and great personality. And you fear you might behave awkwardly there.

You want everything to be perfect so that you can just have some fun there, be social, and maybe even make new friends or relationship. So you put it in your calendar, know the location already and are familiar with it, and now want to do something about your appearance. The main element is your outfit. What can you wear that will impress your potential other self, but also won’t attract too much attention? Let’s explore some options so that you look your best.

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For a start, you need to know how formal or informal your date is gonna be. The point is that you won’t appear too overdressed. Or the opposite - too casual. If one of these happens, you won’t feel comfortable there, and definitely won’t be at ease to start conversations. It’s also possible that the date has a theme. In this case, prepare the necessary accessories, or wear the color of the dress code they require. That will make it easier for you to choose what to wear.

Location and conditions

If it’s outside, like a walk in a park or BBQ, you’d definitely want to check the weather first and prepare accordingly. Even if it’s summer, you might want to bring something like a jacket in case it gets colder in the evening. If it’s a dinner party at a friend’s home or a restaurant, though, you’ll be sitting next to each other on the table for a long time, so what you wear on top will make an impression first.

Pick the right accessories

The accessories are where you can add a personal touch. While we often dress depending on the weather, and might need to ruin our hair with a hat or even get wet from the rain, what we add here and there to accompany the looks can make all the difference. That’s a watch, for a start. Adding this one item to your outfit will make your whole looks classier.

Women can experiment with jewellery, but at the same time should be careful not to overdo it. Adding accessories in their hair is also an option. Then, they’d probably want to select the right bag, and match it with their shoes.

Men can take a second look at their belt, and add a tie to their shirt if they’re going to a formal event.

Be practical

For those of you who don’t have enough details about the meeting, and don’t want to stress over the outfit till the date comes, it’s better to focus on practicality. There are some outfits that are acceptable for almost any occasion. For colours, you can never go wrong with black and white. And jeans seem to be evergreen. Girls can feel good in a black dress both at a house party, on a date and during a business dinner.

Keeping it simple is a rule to follow that always works. Also, make sure you stay true to your personality. If you’re going to a formal dinner and you’ve never worn a suit or a dress, no need to do it now. Just go with your usual clothes, but something a bit more formal and which won’t grab the attention but will just blend in with the rest of the people there.

At the end of the day, it’s all about how you’ll behave once you get there. While your attire says a lot about you in the first few seconds, it’s all about manners and what you say from there on. So don’t overthink it. What happens most often, is people who spend weeks worrying about what to wear and buying something expensive in the last minute, ending up overdoing it and not even feeling good in this outfit.

Go with what feels right and what will help you be who your are. Just add a more formal element here and there if the date requires it, or stay away from accessories you usually add but which won’t seem appropriate for this occasion.

Sarah Williams used to be a shy girl who, with a lot of work and positive attitude, became a social butterfly. Currently her mission is to help men and women of around the world create a sexier, stronger version of themselves.  She regularly contributes to Wingman Magazine.