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Rejection is both the hardest and the most inevitable part of online dating, so you need to know how to deal with it. A very few lucky people meet someone special on their first date, but for the majority of us, it’s going to take quite a lot of days which won’t work out. Sometimes you’ll be the one doing the rejecting, sometimes it will be the other person, but it’s almost definitely going to happen. If you’re able to deal with it in a level headed and calm way, your dating experience will be much more enjoyable. Here’s how to cope with online dating rejection.

Don’t take it personally

This is easier said that done, but not taking every brush off to heart will make your life a lot easier. Remember that there is nothing wrong with you, it’s just that you aren’t what the other person is looking for. Some people have a very specific ‘type’ in their head, which will be very difficult for anyone to live up to. Just because you weren’t right for them, it doesn’t mean you won’t be perfect for someone else.

Let go

If you’ve been on two or three dates with someone it’s easy to let your imagination run away with you and start constructing all kinds of fantasies about the future. However, if the other person feels differently, there is no use in trying to convince, persuade or manipulate them into thinking otherwise. You want to be with someone who really wants to be with you, and not someone who has been coerced into it. Let them go with dignity and move on.

Practice building resilience

If you don’t cope well with rejection, practice building resilience so you can navigate your love life without feeling constantly hurt. Don’t make dating the absolute centre of your life: make sure your spending time with friends and family and pursuing other hobbies and interests too. Eating healthily and getting plenty of sleep will make you feel balanced and less likely to be knocked off course by not getting a third date. And if you’re finding it too stressful, take a break for a couple of weeks before looking for another date.

Learn from your own experience

At some stage, you’re going to be the one doing the rejecting. You probably won’t have any very negative feelings about the person you’re rejecting - you may have even liked them - but you just didn’t feel a spark. Remember this feeling when someone else rejects you - they don’t think badly of you, there just wan’t enough chemistry. You should also make sure you’re gentle with other people’s feelings when saying you don’t want to see them again. Speak to them as you would wish others to speak to you.

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